A couple should request permission for its wedding at Our Lady Queen
of Poland from the pastor. Phone requests will not be honored. The
parish priest will see if the date requested is available and indicate
it in our parish Mass book.
After the pastor grants permission, arrangements for marriage
preparation course classes are to be made.
Arrangements should be made at Church before other arrangements (such
as the reception hall, etc.) are made. Usual preparations for marriage
require at least 6 months prior to the wedding.
In case of a previous marriage – no plans are to be made until proper
procedures of annulment are made and annulment(s) is (are) granted.
We encourage the couple to register as active members of the parish.
Due to certain religious services throughout the year, particular days are
not available for weddings. Please note the days and times that are not
Normally we do not conduct weddings during the Advent or Lenten
Seasons (4 weeks before Christmas and 6 weeks before Easter,
The parish does not conduct weddings on Fridays or Sundays.
If either party was married before, the following documentation is
needed before any plans are to be made:
A copy of the civil divorce papers.
The documentation of a church annulment.
No date is to be arranged until the annulment (if necessary) procedure
Baptismal and Confirmation certificates.
Contact the church of your Baptism and Confirmation and obtain a
recently dated copy of your Baptismal certificate and
Confirmation certificate. Please note that the documentation is
to be a recent copy (i.e., not more than six months old) of your
Baptism/Confirmation—an old copy of your Baptism/Confirmation
certificate is not acceptable.
The Pre-nuptial investigation papers. These will be filled out during
one of the visits with the priest arranging the wedding.
The couple must obtain a civil marriage license in advance of the
wedding, not more than thirty (30) days before the wedding, nor less
than 24 hours before the wedding. The marriage license should be
given to the priest no later than at the wedding rehearsal.
Contact our organist to make arrangements for the music for the wedding.
Our Lady Queen of Poland does not allow music from popular shows and
secular music under any circumstances.
On occasion, guest organists, singers, relatives and the like are
requested. While it is appreciated that other musicians are or may be
qualified, it is not the practice at Our Lady Queen of Poland to
replace our own musicians who work here on a regular basis. Please
understand that this request is discouraged.
Decorations – Processions – Photographers
The question always arises, “Can we throw rice?” THE FOLLOWING ARE
FORBIDDEN: RICE, CONFETTI, NOODLES, BIRD SEED, BALLOONS, FLOWER
PETALS, AND ANY SIMILAR SUBSTANCE THAT WOULD HAVE TO BE SWEPT OR
MOPPED AWAY! They are not to be brought into the church or used on
the church property!
Arrangements for flowers and runners (if used) are to be made by the
bride and groom with the florist of their choice. The parish can
recommend florists who have worked with the parish. If a runner is
desired, inform the florist that no tape is to be used on the floor.
The florist should speak to a priest regarding the placement of
Due to fire regulations certain decorations may not be allowed in the
aisles or on the benches. For details please consult with the priest.
If decorations are to be placed on the benches (e.g. bows) they are to
be secured with rubber bands or string. No tape is to be used.
A maximum of five (5) couples, excluding the best man and maid of
honor are permitted.
Videographers, photographers and the like are to use discretion in
their work. No photographer, etc., is permitted in the Sanctuary.
If cables, etc. are used no tape is to be used on the floor.
It is important that on the day of the wedding, that the ceremony
begin on time. If someone is late—bride or groom or any other in the
wedding party—the Mass will be canceled and a simple marriage ceremony
will be celebrated.
Rehearsals are ordinarily scheduled on the Friday before the wedding.
You must remember that you are receiving a Sacrament. It is necessary that
you be in the state of grace. It is vital that part of your preparation
for marriage includes receiving the Sacrament of Penance - particularly for
the Catholic party. Please plan ahead to make a good confession prior to
your wedding so that you may reap the full sacramental benefits of this
special day of yours. Confessions are heard after the rehearsal here at
A Final Thought
Individuals reading these regulations are sometimes offended. It is not
our intention to offend; it is our intention to provide all couples with
equal and fair treatment. If you cannot or do not wish to accept them,
please do not hesitate to locate another parish church for your wedding.